"Chinese wedding - my daughter is married" has been broadcast for seven periods. We have seen all kinds of love stories. In this period, the newlyweds are also covered with labels, such as cross-border love and sister brother love. They will not be mere worldly interpretation.

01

All the mountains and seas can be leveled

The groom Gary is German. He was only 19 when he first met his bride huangfangli. That was his first visit to China. He probably didn't think it would be a turning point in his destiny. He fell in love at first sight with huangfangli, who was six years older than him. After determining his mind, he traveled thousands of miles and left his life in Germany without hesitation. Although there was no definite future between them at that time, he still chose to try bravely.

We have rarely seen such enthusiasm and impulse from the most essential attribute of love. Most of us feel that the most primitive savage romance of adult love is the exclusive of young people, because they seem to have a lot of time to try and make mistakes recklessly, as if the whole world can be left behind.

But in fact, we tear down the label of age. This kind of courage is not the embodiment of responsibility. Gary didn't draw a cake for the girl he loved. As huangfangli said, the 10000 sweet words and promises that a man said can't compare with what he really did for himself. Doing what you say is a sense of responsibility in itself.

In addition, what moved huangfangli most about Gary was that he had never thought of changing each other. From childhood to childhood, huangfangli has been asked to be excellent and make progress. However, in Gary's place, she doesn't need to try to prove her excellence. She doesn't need to force herself to be what Gary wants.

She can be gentle and lose her temper. She will never be asked what to do. She feels that she will not be kidnapped and bound in the name of love. She can really be herself in front of this person.

Sincerity, courage and inclusiveness are the best qualities of a person, which have nothing to do with age. Gary also proved this with his own practical actions. He and huangfangli have been together for seven years. They have been guarding their love and growing up together in their own way.

Gary doesn't think he is a so-called good man. If he has to say anything good, it's also because he has huangfangli around him. He is brave for love not because he is young and impulsive, but because he is warm and beautiful.

Most secular standards are not so important to the truly powerful. Both Gary and huangfangli never think that age is an obstacle to each other, nor do they have the presupposition of "elder sister taking care of younger brother" for each other. In their view, what they need is a lover, not a sister or younger brother. They are two people who are independent but deeply in love with each other. That's all. Age is just a physical attribute rather than an identity symbol.

02

Multiple meanings of marriage

The most attractive point of "Chinese wedding - my daughter is married" is that it does not only talk about love, but also extends to the discussion of the family ethics of the whole society and even the integration and exchange of cultures through the analysis of the basic family relationship of marriage.

Gary is a German boy. Although there is a language barrier in his relationship with his Chinese father-in-law, there is no embarrassment or estrangement. His father-in-law entertains Gary with his treasured tea, while Gary makes steak dinner for his father-in-law. His father-in-law does not forget to infiltrate Chinese culture into Gary all the time during his outing, which is not only an exchange and collision of eastern and Western cultures, but also an enhancement of the relationship between Weng and his son-in-law. The family is the most basic social unit, and also the most basic cultural transmission unit.

In addition, this transnational marriage triggered another significant chain reaction. Huangfangli's parents separated when she was very young, and in an unseemly and peaceful way, the two sat together again to discuss matters as father and mother for the sake of her daughter's life. Taking her daughter's wedding as an opportunity, the previous generation also realized the release and reconciliation of the past life.

From this, we can see the multiple meanings of the wedding. It is not only a family fusion ceremony, but also affects the change and development of more relationships. Marriage is a wonderful relationship. Two strangers meet and link with each other, which affects the fate of more people. Marriage is like an energy field. Taking this as the center, it radiates out multiple emotional energy, forming a closely linked energy network. Then the whole human society can live forever.

People use marriage as a link to establish the family, which constitutes the basic unit of human society. The book of rites says: "those who are ignorant of rites will have a good relationship with the two surnames. The upper part will serve the ancestral temple, and the lower part will follow the later generations." From the development of individuals in society to the integration of culture and the continuation and inheritance of human society, the core of marriage is not just love.

03

The language of love

Love needs to be expressed. In the program, hujingwen mentioned that in psychology, love has five languages, namely "positive words", "careful moments", "receiving gifts", "service actions" and "physical contact". These five love languages are actually practiced between Gary and huangfangli.

They unconditionally affirm and accept each other, and will not let the other make any changes for themselves. This is "affirmative words"; When they get along with each other, they put all their attention on each other. In the program, we can also see that they often make eye contact. This is an "elaborate moment"; They will create beautiful memories for each other and create a sense of ritual, which is "accepting gifts"; Gary will take good care of huangfangli's life and prepare her morning coffee, which is "service action"; When they go shopping, they must hold hands and feel the presence of each other. This is "physical contact".

They are not stingy to express their love for each other. A hug and a "I love you" are natural and warm. The education we received from childhood seems to be to suppress our true feelings, but we forget that love actually needs to be felt by each other. It can permeate every detail of life. In Gary's opinion, even if two people walk from upstairs to downstairs holding hands, it is also a date, and such communication is essential in each other's love life.

The atmosphere of love needs to be created and the emotion of love needs to be expressed. This is not hypocrisy, let alone embarrassment. Communication and expression itself is an effective way to solve problems. In the next program, they will also carry out heart-to-heart communication and exchange, and launch the "ten questions before marriage", which is the most direct attack on the soul.

Although sister brother love is not an obstacle to their love, the growth of age and changes in physical conditions will inevitably bring birth pressure. She also communicated this concern with Gary in her ten questions before marriage# Why do girls worry about sister brother love \.

How should they resolve this contradiction? What are the high requirements of a designer bride for a wedding? The next program, Chinese wedding - my daughter is married, will answer them one by one.